Most people who come to see me have never been to a counsellor before and it’s usually quite a big deal for them to take the plunge. The reasons that they have to come to me are broadly the same: The lives we lead today are challenging and it’s easy to feel that things have got on top of us, whether it’s the work environment or home life or a combination of both. As a result we can feel stressed and anxious and eventually this stops us having a good night’s sleep. Life becomes a struggle, we feel miserable and low. Or irritable and snappy and anger that we worry we can’t control. The “worry switch” in our brains seems to be permanently on – we can feel the tension across our shoulders and a tightness in our chests. Our physical health might start to suffer – we always seem to feel sick and tired. Some of us start to drink more in order to cope, some of us find we are craving sugary fatty foods, needing more of a nicotine fix to get us going or any number of other addictions just to make life bearable. We know HOW to lead a healthy life, but we just can’t summon the motivation to start to make the necessary changes.
Most of the people who come to me have some (or all) of these problems and know they are simply at the point where they are saying “I just can’t cope”. On the positive side, this is the point where miracles can and do happen.
The counselling sessions are all about encouraging self-reliance, confidence, lasting emotional health and self esteem.. It’s a safe, confidential and supportive space. In the first session we decide whether we feel that we can work together and look at what your goals are. Some people find that a short term solution-focused approach (where we start from where you are now and focus on getting you to where you’d like to be in as few sessions as possible) is the right one for them. Others find that they need to take things more slowly and really look at things in depth. (Click here for a longer article about the difference between short and long term therapy.) I use the most up to date, effective psychological techniques based on a modern understanding of the brain/mind/body system and what people really need to thrive and be happy.
At the start of our counselling sessions I usually ask you complete some short questionnaires (ticking boxes) about how you have been feeling over the past week. The reason for this is that you can then look back and see clearly the progress that you have made over the weeks. If you are interested I have lots of hand-outs with useful tips about emotional health and lists of useful books and Internet resources, plus my own free audio relaxation CDs. I will also note down and give you a list of any goals that you might have decided that you want to work on between sessions.
My Cork counselling practice is at 7 Chatsworth, Donnybrook Hill, Douglas, Cork city, where there is stress-free private parking available. The 207 bus from the city centre also stops outside.
Making an appointment
If you are interested in making an appointment for counselling please ring 087 9934541 or send me a message. I try to see clients within 48 hours if they require it.
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