Gaslighting

What IS gaslighting? One of the most devastating tactics used by narcissists is gaslighting and it is something that, unless one has actually experienced it, is difficult to comprehend.This is my fourth blog about relationships with people with narcissistic personalities. My previous blogs have looked at some of the characteristics…

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What is a Narcissist?

What is a narcissist? My previous two blogs looked at some general strategies for effectively handling conflict or uncomfortable situations. However, there are some individuals who, it seems, take difficult behaviour to a whole new level. The term “narcissist” is used far too much these days – we use it…

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Difficult Behaviour 2

This is part two of how to deal with someone else's difficult behaviour, taking some advice from professional crisis intervention teams (who work in the fields of health care, law enforcement etc). They use particular tactics to deal with difficult people and it is well worth learning these and keeping…

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Difficult Behaviour

How do you deal with someone else's difficult behaviour ? What do you do when things go wrong? Looking for support around managing relationships is one of the most common reasons people come to counselling. Humans are social animals so if one or more of our relationships is going through…

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Addiction and Visualisation

My previous blog about addiction looked at the role our brain plays in both sustaining and beating addiction. Our rational mind may really want to overcome a particular behaviour but using reason and sheer willpower is not usually enough - when clients come to me looking for help with overcoming…

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