We usually imagine an angry person as one who shouts and yells in an aggressive way to get their point across. But there are at least five anger styles or ways of expressing our anger, some of which we may not recognise immediately as anger. A highly recommended read is…
My previous few blogs have looked at the work of Harriet Lerner on anger. Harriet looks particularly at womens' anger. Another highly recommended read is Beating Anger by Mike Fisher, an anger therapist who runs anger management workshops in the UK and who focusses especially on male anger. Mike Fisher…
An image of one my favourite people, Greta Thunberg, demonstrating powerful anger and making world leaders sit up and pay attention. Powerful anger is much discussed in Harriet Lerner’s book The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships which I first came across when…
This is the third in a series of blogs about managing anger looking at “Nice Ladies and Bitches” which is what Harriet Lerner originally wanted to call her book. (Unfortunately her publisher wasn’t too taken with that title!) As I said in my previous blog, I first came across Harriet…
This is the second in a series of blogs about managing anger looking particularly at women and anger. As I said in my previous blog, I first came across Harriet Lerner’s book The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships when a client told…
Everyone gets angry from time to time! In fact, according to research the average person will get angry at least four times a day. This is the first of a series of blogs about managing anger - looking at the work of clinical psychologist Harriet Lerner and also some interesting…
How do you deal with someone else's difficult behaviour ? What do you do when things go wrong? Looking for support around managing relationships is one of the most common reasons people come to counselling. Humans are social animals so if one or more of our relationships is going through…
This final in a series of blogs about anger looks at more powerful ways to control anger, focussing on mindfulness, breathing and relaxation techniques and visualisation. Most people want to control their anger. Most, but not all, feel guilty after the outburst and want to stop. Indeed they may promise…
This fifth in a series of blogs about anger looks at more powerful ways of controlling your anger. Most people want to control their anger. Most, but not all, feel guilty after the outburst and want to stop. Indeed they may promise to stop, but “lose it” again and again.…
This fourth in a series of blogs about anger looks at powerful ways of managing anger. Most people want to control their anger. Most, but not all, feel guilty after the outburst and want to stop. Indeed they may promise to stop, but “lose it” again and again. Modern brain…
Angry thinking styles This is the third is a series of blogs about anger - an issue which brings a lot of people to counselling. Of course we all get angry and the way we tend to think when we are angry is pretty similar. It's worth being aware of…
Healthy and Unhealthy Anger This is the second in a series of blogs about anger and looks at both healthy and unhealthy anger. Anger is a very important emotion and healthy anger has been described as "a surge of calm energy, an empowered and energised feeling without tension or anxiety."…