This is part two of how to deal with someone else's difficult behaviour, taking some advice from professional crisis intervention teams (who work in the fields of health care, law enforcement etc). They use particular tactics to deal with difficult people and it is well worth learning these and keeping…
How do you deal with someone else's difficult behaviour ? What do you do when things go wrong? Looking for support around managing relationships is one of the most common reasons people come to counselling. Humans are social animals so if one or more of our relationships is going through…
These are unprecedented times and every one of us is reeling from the events of the last week or so and finding helpful sources of information about how to mind ourselves is vital. These are three pieces of information that I have found useful - from the HSE, the BBC…
My previous blog about addiction looked at the role our brain plays in both sustaining and beating addiction. Our rational mind may really want to overcome a particular behaviour but using reason and sheer willpower is not usually enough - when clients come to me looking for help with overcoming…
People are much more likely to get caught up in addiction when important emotional needs cease to be met, perhaps because of loss, caused by the death of someone that we were very close to, a relationship ending, redundancy or illness, or by dissatisfaction arising from boredom or feeling trapped.…
This article looks at the topic of addiction and self sabotage but self sabotage is by no means only linked to giving up an addiction. We all self sabotage at times! What is self sabotage? Self sabotage has been defined as “the gap between intention and action”. We make an…
When a client comes to me looking for some help in overcoming addiction, whether it's to smoking, alcohol or drugs, or indeed any other type of addiction, I always spend some time explaining the role that our brains have in addiction. Having a basic knowledge of addiction and the brain…
This is the first of a series of blogs about overcoming addiction. Addiction spreads to every kind of pleasurable behaviour: drinking, cigarettes, drugs both legal and illegal, gambling, internet, sex, food, even exercise and shopping. Some activities or substances can generate a feeling that is so powerful that life without…
This final in a series of blogs about anger looks at more powerful ways to control anger, focussing on mindfulness, breathing and relaxation techniques and visualisation. Most people want to control their anger. Most, but not all, feel guilty after the outburst and want to stop. Indeed they may promise…
This fifth in a series of blogs about anger looks at more powerful ways of controlling your anger. Most people want to control their anger. Most, but not all, feel guilty after the outburst and want to stop. Indeed they may promise to stop, but “lose it” again and again.…
This fourth in a series of blogs about anger looks at powerful ways of managing anger. Most people want to control their anger. Most, but not all, feel guilty after the outburst and want to stop. Indeed they may promise to stop, but “lose it” again and again. Modern brain…
Angry thinking styles This is the third is a series of blogs about anger - an issue which brings a lot of people to counselling. Of course we all get angry and the way we tend to think when we are angry is pretty similar. It's worth being aware of…