This is the third in a series of blogs about managing anger looking at “Nice Ladies and Bitches” which is what Harriet Lerner originally wanted to call her book. (Unfortunately her publisher wasn’t too taken with that title!) As I said in my previous blog, I first came across Harriet…
This is the second in a series of blogs about managing anger looking particularly at women and anger. As I said in my previous blog, I first came across Harriet Lerner’s book The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships when a client told…
Everyone gets angry from time to time! In fact, according to research the average person will get angry at least four times a day. This is the first of a series of blogs about managing anger - looking at the work of clinical psychologist Harriet Lerner and also some interesting…
This is my final blog looking at the excellent book by twin sisters Emily and Amelia Nagoski "Burnout: The Secret To Solving The Stress Cycle". I've called this the Hidden Side of Burnout because I was especially impressed by the way that they look at less talked about pieces of…
Modern life is complex and stressful and we all suffer exhaustion, even burnout, at least at times. What steps can we take to prevent burnout? Emily and Amelia Nagoski, identical twin sisters with doctorates in human sexual behaviour (Emily) and music (Amelia) have written an excellent book about burnout, Burnout:…
This is my second blog looking at Emily and Amelia Nagoski's an excellent book about stress and burnout, Burnout: The Secret To Solving The Stress Cycle. The Nagoskis offer straightforward solutions based on science but first we have to really understand what is meant by “the stress cycle” and how…
Modern life is complex and stressful and we all suffer mental and physical exhaustion at times. When does exhaustion become burnout? And what exactly is meant by burnout? What is burnout? The term was first used in 1975 by German psychologist Herbert Freudenberger. Much research has been done since and…
This final article about grounding tools and techniques introduces you to my favourite grounding tool! It also looks at mindful distraction and self-soothing. All of us could sometimes do with a little grounding and all grounding techniques are designed to do one thing: to help us to connect with the…
This blog gives a list of powerful physical grounding tools. All of us could sometimes do with a little grounding! Although grounding does not solve the problem that is contributing to your unpleasant emotions, it does provide a temporary way to gain control over your feelings and prevent things from…
This blog looks at ten powerful mental grounding tools. All of us could sometimes do with a little grounding! All grounding techniques are designed to do one thing: to help us to connect with the present in a focussed way which gives both our body and mind a chance to…
What is Grounding? People often use the expression “I need to stay grounded” when they feel themselves being pulled too much into overthinking and worrying about things or being pulled into very strong emotions. As a counsellor, I find that knowing and using grounding tools and techniques can make a…
What is happiness and how can we hope to achieve it? That is I suppose one of life's Big Questions and one that we spend most of our lives trying to work out for ourselves! But I think that the work of American Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi who I have…