My previous blog looked at the self critic - and this blog looks at ways of replacing the self critic. What do we mean when we talk about the self critic? Too many of us are quietly, privately, hard on ourselves. We walk around with an inner critic, telling us…

What do we mean when we talk about the self critic? Too many of us are quietly, privately, hard on ourselves. We walk around with an inner critic, telling us we’re not ‘good enough’ and never amount to anything. It shouts at us after a difficult run in with our…

This article looks at why self-compassion is healthier than self-esteem. Although the two may seem similar, they are different in many ways. Over the past ten years or so, there have been literally thousands of books and articles written promoting self-esteem – how to get it, how to increase it…

This is the fourth in a series of blogs about self-compassion, which focuses on some of the tools of self-compassion. As a therapist, I can honestly say, that it is one of the best practices available - based on solid scientific research. It can make a huge difference to how…

This is the third in a series of blogs about self-compassion, which focuses on self-compassion tools. As a therapist, I can honestly say, in my experience, that it is one of the best practices available - based on many years of solid scientific research. It can make a huge difference…

This is the second in a series of blogs about self-compassion, and asks the question: how self-compassionate are you? Most of us have a harsh self critic who sits on our shoulder, observing and telling us where we are going wrong - “Why on earth did you say that? What…

In her popular book, Self-Compassion, psychologist Kristin Neff, Ph.D., describes how she used years of research to develop a simple model of self-compassion with three elements of learning to be kind to yourself.  Self compassion isn’t a practice that we do naturally - in fact we are much more likely…